Are you dating a millionaire or an impostor? How can you tell? It is important to be able to tell because I have found men on millionaire sites who are not millionaires at all. They may have been, or they may be hoping to find a millionaire woman they won’t need to pay for. It’s been said that the single millionaire has it all, but this can be misleading. If you are seeking a millionaire your top priority is financial security, so it’s best to know what that looks sounds and feels like.
In a previous life as a financial consultant, I was strongly encouraged to read Millionaire Next Door, by Thomas J. Stanley. I recommended you read it in a blog post three weeks ago. Stanley has written several other books of this thought process. You don’t want to be duped by a guy with fast talk and showy items of millionaire style, only to find out he has leveraged everything for the image of wealth. The impostor is slick and actually takes on the millionaire persona. He or she is a special type of liar, but like most, can be shaken out eventually.
Men and women who strive to be millionaires will often seek to leverage the image of wealth to get in with the ultra wealthy and do business. If this type of networking allows them to grow an honest business great, but be careful. You don’t want to be fooled into a false relationship and find yourself in tense situations because things are not as they appeared. Your top priority in seeking a millionaire relationship is financial security. You need to know the indicators and what to look for. Naturally SeekingMillioniare.com has a screening process, so it can increase your likelihood of meeting your millionaire mate, but some people can be tricky and other sites are not as clear cut. Besides, you may be attracted to the non-certified user. This is how many millionaire impostors get away with their sneaky ways for so long- it’s because you WANT to believe the fantasy!
Some things are plain obvious, but open your eyes! It’s the in-between types who are don’t make sound business decisions that give the red-flag signal. Signs of existing or past wealth are watches, cuff links, ties, shoes and belts. Clearly if he owns an airplane with a pilot, or a large yacht with staff, attends the top donor/philanthropic events and travels at will in first class, he or she is wealthy. You need to decide on the level of millionaire you want to meet. Some match makers will tell you to forget doctors, attorneys, and engineers, but this really depends on you, and the level of wealth you are looking for. I know plenty of doctors, lawyers and engineers who make well over $300,000/ year and have accumulated millions at a relatively young age (under 40 years old).
High level millionaires are going to be corporate magnates, business owners, or top investors (hedge funds, etc.). You might be surprised where some of these folks live, although single millionaires are usually in places where they have easy access to flights, boats, and other amenities. Millionaires do not put their money under a mattress, in a safety deposit box or in a tin can in the back yard. They spend it or invest it. It is part of your job to figure out the type you are with by where he sees value in placing or building his wealth. Impostors pretend to put money places, but if you pay attention you will notice the inconsistencies between their lifestyle and their claims.
Obvious Things to notice:
Not so Obvious Things:
The information is in the details, not in appearances. Take the time to get to know your millionaire date, and pay attention to your communication. Do not get swept into the ‘idea’ that you have met your millionaire until you have taken a close and detailed look at how he carries himself, conducts himself and how he spends his money.
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