Let me start by saying this: I’m not a prude. I’ve had enough intimate exchanges to prove that I am definitely not so high on my pedestal that I can’t get down with a hottie. It’s not like I haven’t had sex before, I have. I just don’t love it enough to do it the way my peers do. You know, regularly, like most other twenty-somethings.
A few years ago something changed in my thought process. Although I hadn’t been with many people, I made a promise to myself that I wasn’t going to be sharing my body until I was sure that I’d spend the rest of my life with them. This wasn’t some “holier than God” moment, I just made a decision and stuck with it. That isn’t to say I’m not sexually active with romantic partners, because I am, but that doesn’t necessitate sex. I guess you could say I’m just a regular guy saving myself for someone special. Is this the new-old-fashioned?
This has nothing to do with religion. I don’t think you’re a bad person if you have sex, after all, I’ve had it before. I won’t judge you if you have a lot of sex, in fact – I’ll probably encourage it. It’s healthy and natural to have sex, you just have to make sure that it is right for you. Remember, promiscuity is in the eye of the beholder.
Sex is intended to be a positive thing. Sex should leave you feeling fulfilled and secure, never empty or alone. Have sex as much as you want, but make sure you’re doing it for you.
We all need to stop judging others for their sexual choices. Everyone is on their own personal journey and it isn’t fair to pass judgement without merit. Let’s co-exist.