I’m usually more interested in millionaire turn-on’s rather than millionaire turnoffs; but for every poison there is an antidote in nature, so too there must be in dating and in dating profiles. I’ve got a pretty good idea of what turns men on, but not so much what turns them off since I have a tendency through close observation to sense the turnoffs and move away from them immediately.
So I decided to ask some millionaire men. Actually I started by listening to them volunteer information, then I began to ask them questions. Despite being on seekingmillioniare.com and other millionaire dating sites, some men have told me that they really do not like the focus that women have on money. Of course this begs the question, why are they on a millionaire dating site? It seems they know that the idea they are millionaires will attract more women. However, they would prefer it not be at the forefront of the conversation, so it would be recommended to be a little more subtle about determining a man’s net worth. Remember, he can tell you anything over the phone or in email. It is patient listening and a solid line of subtle questions not related to money that will tell you more about the pocketbook and how he feels about it and uses it, than any blurting you might have on your mind. Develop a skill set.
It is also very clear that millionaire men do not take women who load their profile with close-up, professional photos of themselves wearing lingerie or bikini’s as seriously as they take women who are elegant, classy and have something to say. If that is what you are leading with, expect to be treated as if it is a dominant part of your value. Also come with the understanding that our physical bodies tire over time and you had best bring a little more to the table if you want to relationship with a millionaire match. Some men have mentioned a beach shot of in bikini, but I have to say from experience, when it comes to meeting quality men, wealthy or not, I never, ever lead with a semi-naked photo. If you really do not mind being treated as arm-candy, by all means, keep the bikini’s; but if you want to attract a really good man, don’t put it out there for every guy to see… it takes ‘special’ out of the equation.
Men, even smart millionaire men, do not want to read your CV or Resume. They complain about this to me all of the time! They also do not want to read some copied profile that looks like every other girls. Keep it short, slightly sexy and intriguing. Offer a ‘call to action’ somewhere in it (a subtle one please).
And finally, the biggest complaint of them all: Men hate surprises of the unpleasant kind. You cannot trick a man into falling in love with you by deceiving him about your age or your weight. Do not do it! Millionaire men are actually more willing to look beyond the physical to find a great match because their mate needs to be able to work well with them and as a partner at events, social and business. Ironically, it is more common for men of lower financial stature to want a woman of higher physical beauty without the other attributes. Something to be aware of; do not be afraid to be smart. Most smart men find brainy women sexy, alluring and compelling when the word feminine is added.